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 God expects honor during a divorce 

I would like to address the painful issue of going through a divorce or a separation from your loved one. Especially if it includes fighting for custody of  your child(ren). It is so important for us to stay focused on doing it God's way by not twisting the truth or worst yet, trying to make the other parent look like a living breathing monster.

God says that the things that we do and say to gain custody of our children will not go unnoticed by Him. 

"That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words, thou shalt be condemned." Matthew 12:36-37

Every Judge in every Court room, as well as any parent fighting for child custody will have experienced first hand the unethical practices that a Christian parent will use to win their case.

The Courts say that Christians will lie, attack and stain the other parents character and reputation, all for the sake of winning their child's custody at any cost!

If you are going through this, I know your pain, when I wanted a divorce and my wife and I were going for full custody. Because we were both allowing the courts to decide in dividing up our property. We both had to leave our home, I had no place to go so I stayed as long as possible, praying to God all day in the spiritual world that I knew that He is in charge of my destiny no matter how bleak and hopeless it seemed in the physical world.

All of a sudden, I literally found myself out on the street homeless with no place to go since I stayed home and took care of our daughter for the last couple of years. I was even out of touch with my friends.

I was told that I had a few minutes to get a few items before I had to leave. I could hear the voice of God's Spirit telling me to take the two boxes that meant the most to my wife, which were filled with her most precious memories and to protect them because our home will be broke in before I am able to come back. Then I could hear the subtle voice of Satan saying to take her two boxes of her most precious possessions and tear them up and toss them in the trash for all the grief that she has put me thorough even thou it was I that wanted the divorce. I chose to do what God wanted me to do and I vowed that I would protect her stuff from vandalism.

Before I drove off with just a few boxes in the back of my car, I looked up toward heaven and with tear filled eyes I said to God "I am leaving my home now and you know that I have no place to go or any money in my pocket, I know you will never leave me or forsake me." Then I drove off.

By the grace of God, the same day I ran into someone I knew years ago named Adriana who asked me if I would like to learn to be a chef at a Itailian resturant because the chef just left. Adriana did not know that I had no place to live or that I was looking for  a job. When she said that the job came with a apartment, I had to almost fight back the emotions as I knew once again by God's grace that He was giving me another miracle that I did not deserve.

Was I homeless? Even though it was for just a few hours, I knew what it felt to not know where I was going to lay my head down for the night. It's a very scary feeling not knowing even where my next meal was going to come from.

If you believe that God is real and you try and do it His way, God will take away all your fears, troubles and obstacles and He will bless you through all your adversities.

Did me and my wife ever get back together? Yes we did. We got back together within a month, and we have been back together ever since.

I have twice in my life wanted to raise our daughter as a single parent and twice in my life, my wife has taught me the meaning of the phrase; "hell hath no fury like a women scorned"

There were things that happened that I will only write in my book "God has my back so bring it on!" Things that I pray that nobody ever else has to endure without the grace of God in their life.

God will remove every obstacle and turn every adversity in your life into a blessing if you just do it His way.

For those of you who are going through a seperation or a divorce, I know how much you are hurting right now, and I will finish my story soon on my own personal and painful experience so that I may share a very heartbreaking but bittersweet story were to this day has been the lowest moment of my entire life where I had no place to go but to turn to God. A story that is not one sided to favor fathers or mothers, but a story where God wants us to know He is there for each and everyone of you if you do it His way!

Please remember when that moment came that defined who I am when I had my wifes most personal and most important items in those boxes that I took with me, that I had made a choice to take care of them and not to destroy them.

It was no coincidence in my life that I found myself homeless and brokenhearted with no place to go that day.

It was not by accident that I just happened to run into a waittress from years ago by accident who just happened to now be a owner of her own resturant and is now offering me a job as a chef and a apartment came with it.

I never cooked at a resturant in my life, let alone try and be a cook at a Italian resturant that served food so good that even Judges from the local Court house ate at.

By the grace of God, I even had customers request to meet me because they liked the way that I had made their meal, thanks to Adriana teaching me.

It was not me, it never was, it was God and His love for me for making the right choices, including taking care of my wifes most personal possessions at a time when I was hurting so much from the pain of going through a custody divorce.

God believes in you, do it His way and He will move heaven and earth just to get close to you to bless you and wipe away your tears.

I know, I was not homeless for days, weeks or longer and it was just for one day before the sun went down, but I still felt the real fear of having no money or no place to go. God by His saving grace and love for me took me off the streets and gave me a job and a home before the sun goes down and He will do the same for you.

God believes in you

Reverend Michael Cartwright

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