He wants you to be filled with grief and bitterness, hoping that he can dominate your thoughts by suggesting to you that your not a good parent, family member, or friend. He'll try and make you think that maybe you could have done something to have stopped this tragedy from happening. That you should have spent more time listening to them, or maybe that you should have stopped them from going out that day.

Satan wants you to be in a dysfunctional mental state of shame and grief so that he can slip his suggestions of suicide or anything else that is destructive to yourself, as well as to your purpose in God's divine plan. Satan wants you to turn to his favorite combination of drugs and alcohol so that you can no longer hear the quiet voice of God that wants you to turn to Him for help and comfort and assure you that everything is going to work out even if we do not understand why,

Never blame God, others or yourself. Many times God has shown us that when tragedy strikes, it has nothing to do with someone else's wrong-doing.  Do not judge the value of your self-worth by the number of years that God allows you to have your child or another loved one in your life. You're a good person and God knows it!

 As much as you are hurting right now in your grief and sorrow, you must trust God that your loved one is in a better place right now, with no pain, no sorrow no tears. You must believe that your loved one is in a joyous and peaceful state waiting for that wonderful day that you will be with them.

The truth is that there is no such thing as an accident or a coincidence to God. Before God created the earth He knew the exact moment and time that he was going to call your child or loved one to Him. Just like he knows the exact time that He will call you to Him. It's not your fault, just like it's not God's fault.

The truth is that God has already received your loved one into His loving arms and is taking care of your loved one. Once we realize that our loved one is being taken care of, it no longer becomes an issue of whether or not they are ok, but rather that we feel a great loss of someone so unique and so special in our lives. We feel a loss of great joy in our lives.

At this time we should not try and torment ourselves, or try to guess and use logic or reason to understand why God allows our children or other loved one's to be taken. God says that our minds are not ready to understand all the things that go on in this world. But He promises that when we get to Heaven, we will understand everything when we see Him.

He asks that we trust that He is with your loved ones at a better place; that they are ok; that everything that God does is with such holiness and purity in His love and His motives for us, that when we are brought together with our loved ones at the right time we will understand the answer to why this has happened to us. And God promises us that once we understand His divine wisdom in Heaven, that it will wipe away every tear and heal every hurt forever. We will say to Him that He is a just and loving God.

"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those who are crushed in spirit." Psalm 34:18 NLT

To feel God's love at a time of such great sorrow as this, we need to understand God's truth! There is nothing on this earth that we own. God owns everything, including our souls. We are just stewards over what He has borrowed to us for a short time. That includes our children, our homes, our vehicles, and everything else. God says our lifetime here is but a puff of smoke compared to eternity. Once we understand this wisdom, we will understand that God has always been there for our loved ones, even in their last final moments.

God says that if a sinful man loves his own child, how much more will a good and loving God love you and your children even more? (Read: Luke 11:13) I know it's hard when your hurting at a time of such a great loss in your heart. The pain and sorrow feels so great that it can feel like nothing will ever heal the deep hole in our heart ever again.

 The truth is that God never waste one of our hurts; your child or loved one is not lost or gone; they are ok; this life time that God calls a puff of smoke compared to eternity will soon pass for you and me. The truth is that we will see our loved ones again in a state of true perfection and joy; there will be no more tears of sorrow or grief.

God's Word does not say for us to be thankful "for" everything, He says for us to be thankful "in" everything.

I pray that with time and meditation, that you will thank God for what may seem like a very brief time that you have had with your child in your care. That you will thank God for the honor and the privilege to have experienced the unique love and  joy and the cherished memories that only your loved one has given to you. And no matter how painful this truth is, that it is better to thank God for you to have cherished your loved one for what may seem such a short time, and to know that you will see them again, then it would be for you to never have loved and cherished them at all.

God's plan of Salvation

And when that fateful day comes when God calls you home, may one of God's first words to you be of how proud He is of you. Because He knew that fateful day when you lost your loved one was the very lowest moment of your life. And He is proud that you still had the courage and the faith to give God your trust and glory for taking care of your loved one.

And as God welcomes you with open arms into Heavens glory,

 May your cup of joy runneth over in this perfect place of love, peace and holiness.

 May you now understand what you thought was a lifetime full of lost memories be but "a puff of smoke compared to eternity with your loved ones."  And as you feel the loving embrace of your child(ren) and loved ones, as you hold each other ever so tightly,

May you give God the glory as you discover something so wonderful and true. 

It is not just our kids that God considers His children.

As you hear God say,

"Welcome home!

For each one of you are all so precious and unique to me,

 For you are all my children!" 

"For none of us liveth to himself, and no man dieth to himself. For whether we live, we live unto the LORD; and whether we die, we die unto the LORD: whether we live therefore, or die, we are the Lord's." Romans 14: 7-8

Remember, if God allowed a loved one to go to heaven, that would not mean that He had forsaken you or that He had left your loved one. I believe when God does allow a life to be taken from us, it's part of His divine plan even though we do not understand why. God's Word teaches us that when we get to Heaven and God explains to us why things have happened to us or our loves ones that we will have a new mind and understanding and we will say that He is a just and good God. God promises us that our time away from our loved ones will be but a puff of smoke compared to our time with them in eternity. Keep the faith and always give God the glory and He will bless you for it. Before the sun goes down this day, forgive those who are not perfect in your lives, love them for we never know the time or the day that will be their last.

"God will never leave you or your loved ones"

"I will never leave you or forsake you." (Hebrews 13:5)